When it comes to the word ‘acceptance’, everyone is familiar with it. Whether it’s mental health, interpersonal interaction, or personal growth, parent-child relationships all talk about this topic.
Accepting what you like is not difficult, of course. But accepting what you don’t like inevitably leads to resistance in your heart, sharp language, and resistance in your behavior. Just like a person who doesn’t like to eat cilantro, if you forcefully add a handful of cilantro to your bowl, accepting what you don’t like is actually not an easy task.
In the workplace, some people speak bluntly and often unintentionally harm others. You may not like this way of communication, but you have to deal with them at work.
You hope to be confident and generous when doing live streaming, but you may still feel nervous and trembling, making it difficult to accept your imperfect performance.
You have been losing weight all along, but still can’t resist eating high calorie foods. Afterwards, you regret and blame yourself, unable to accept your loss of control.
You long for success in your career, but when faced with difficulties and setbacks, you may doubt yourself, even doubt life, and find it difficult to accept change and failure. . Acceptance is like this, we understand the reason, but we still can’t overcome this hurdle psychologically. We will still not accept it. Then we learn to face unhappy things and use various methods to “accept” ourselves. Cognitive adjustment, emotional management, active listening, self-care, gradual practice, and even meditation Learning without stopping has little effect. What I want to say is that although you have not fully learned to accept, it is through repeated practice, failure, adjustment, and failure that you have broadened your psychological boundaries.
So, acceptance is more like a marathon, based on endurance and gradual progress. The unsatisfactory work, the pressure of life, and the inability to pursue love are all painful experiences In the end, you will get through it, the pain will pass, and through each day of experience, there is a hint of calmness in your strong appearance, a hint of solemnity in your cheerful smile, and a bit of determination in your silent time. Looking back, suddenly you can get used to seeing people you don’t like.
So, there’s no need to rush to “accept” things and people that you find difficult to accept.
Acceptance doesn’t mean you have to like and accept everything and people you don’t like. But learn to find the ability to accept reality in situations you don’t like.
Acceptance does not mean indulgence, but finding a balance. For example, as parents, we often emphasize the importance of accepting our children. Does this mean that we are also tolerant when our children make mistakes? Or do they just let them escape responsibility? None of them. The true meaning of accepting a child, in my opinion, is as follows: as a parent, I have a responsibility to discipline you, and this discipline is not for use, let alone harm. Care and responsibility are not contradictory. Of course, using children as learning tools is not necessarily out of love. More out of one’s own fear instinct.
Life is the best teacher. The uncertainty of life will constantly teach everyone the art of acceptance. Every experience is an opportunity for learning.