Be good to yourself, how can you teach such a simple truth
I’m sorry, I don’t want to ‘teach’ anyone, I just want to sort out my own emotional journey, let go of some things, and be kind to some people.
This is not because of my high style, I am just a bit selfish and want to be better to myself from now on.
When I was young, I was definitely an angry youth. I always like to criticize and comment on current issues, whether they are related to me or not. Apart from raising blood pressure and scaring people away, there is only a lot of complaints left.
There is a saying that goes: Anger is punishing oneself for someone else’s mistakes.
It makes sense, but not entirely true.
Because anger is a natural emotion, there is no good or bad, right or wrong, and there is no need to deny or suppress it.
Moreover, the mistakes may not necessarily be made by others, or not entirely.
The person who is truly good to oneself is not the one who throws the blame, because throwing the blame will not make oneself better.
It’s only natural that everyone has their own standards and expectations when it comes to treating others.
However, when I was young, not only was I strict with myself, but I also treated others harshly. In this mode, not only are you dissatisfied with others, but you are also dissatisfied with yourself.
After experiencing many things and interacting with a wider range of people, I gradually realized that no one is perfect.
A bit foolish, or a bit foolish, such a simple truth, only understood after living for decades.
But after understanding this truth, I also freed myself from the shackles of perfectionism: being stupid or foolish is a fact, and it’s better than being stubborn.
For those who live in a state of complaint and resentment, I used to only ridicule their ignorance and narrowness, but now I see their suffering: not allowing themselves to be happy.
This also includes myself.
They search for dissatisfaction everywhere, providing raw materials for their resentment, anger, and dissatisfaction, like a garbage bin dedicated to collecting negative energy: disgusting others and abusing themselves.
There is a saying in the West that when you only have a hammer, everything looks like a nail.
This sentence also applies to garbage collection enthusiasts.
We can have hammers and trash cans, but we can’t just have these. A skilled craftsman always has more and more equipment in their toolbox.