Psychologically speaking, if there is unconditional love in this world, it must be a child’s love for their parents. Raising children is a self-healing process for parents. Is it true?
When did parents experience the joy of their child’s birth … fear, utilitarianism, stubbornness, cowardice The requirements for children are increasing day by day, such as being handsome, studying well, earning a lot of money, and striving for excellence I have to bear everything from the livelihood of my family to the pressure of work. Exhausted to the point where one cannot catch their breath, they may collapse if unable to hold back. If there is a little accident in the family, life will fall into chaos.
But in fact, there is no one behind parents, and children are the most loyal friends. I remember when I was busy, my child’s innocent smile turned into a warm current of support; When feeling wronged, the child’s clear voice transforms into such a needed happiness; When powerless, the child’s clear gaze turned into a kind of strength. The sound of ‘Mom, Dad’ became the most beautiful music in the world.
Parents are the guides for children, and children are even more a ray of light in our fragmented lives.
Human beings are the sum of various social relationships. We are the children of our parents, the brothers and sisters of our brothers and sisters, and the friends of our friends. These relationships define us. We have too many roles and attributes, undoubtedly, today we only have one role – the parents of the child. On this International Children’s Day, let’s examine the most honest relationship in the world that points to the deepest soul – parent-child relationship.
If a child is angry, you are more excited than him; When a child cries, you feel restless and agitated Are you unable to tolerate your child’s “weakness” because you were not allowed to show weakness from a young age; You feel panic when your child gets angry, perhaps because you are afraid of expressing anger and being punished – the child’s emotions are your echo.
You are accustomed to avoiding conflicts, and children also learn to be silent; You always demand perfection, and children become afraid of making mistakes; Are your complaints about your child’s lack of patience your projection; You accuse your child of ‘never leaving their phone’, is that the same for yourself? Your child’s behavior is a replica of yours.
Emphasizing that children must be admitted to prestigious schools, are you making up for the shortcomings in your life? Forcing children to excel, do you not accept your own mediocrity? Are you forced to give up your music dream by forcing your child to learn piano? Unrealized desires and unfulfilled recognition are presented to children in another form – children are not a sequel to your life’s script.
Do you think being coquettish is not allowed in your childhood? Why are you anxious when your child fails? Perhaps you are required to only allow success; You always say ‘don’t cry’ to your child, maybe your tears have never been allowed; Are you used to material compensation? Did you have too little material resources when you were a child? ——–A child is a mirror through which you observe yourself.
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Through children, get to know yourself; By getting to know yourself, you can come to know the world.