Everyone plays with their phones. Actually, everyone’s content pushed is different. Why is that? In psychology, this is called ‘cognitive bias’.
If you are in a bad mood, your phone will push you bad news; If you like food, it will push you food We have all entered the information network of ‘One Leaf Blinds the Forest’. The ‘world’ you encounter is not the whole world, but only your own world, and the world in the eyes of others has almost nothing to do with you.
Family atmosphere, relationship with parents, setbacks in youth, confusion in adulthood… These experiences make you habitually interpret everything in some way:
If you are constantly rejected during your growth, you will become particularly sensitive to criticism as an adult, and even consider well intentioned advice as an attack;
If you have been betrayed by someone you trust, you will unconsciously doubt everyone, even if they are extremely sincere;
If you have been surviving in a competitive environment, you will smell crisis even in stability;
What you firmly believe in, you will subconsciously take actions that can make it come true. You think you won’t succeed, so you don’t strive for opportunities, and the result is really not successful;
You feel that relationships are not long-lasting, so you dare not invest in intimate relationships, and as a result, you really separate;
You feel that the world is cold, so if you are cold to others first, they will naturally not respond warmly to you; ……
The world in your eyes is not what it really is.
We cannot see the whole world, we can only see the part we focus on. Our attention is like a flashlight’s light. Wherever it shines, we think the world is like that. Where the flashlight cannot shine, we cannot see.
This’ cognitive bias’ can also be said to be our life script, and everyone’s life script is different.
From a different perspective, the world is different!
When you trust others, their responses are warmer;
When you actively seek opportunities, they will multiply;
When you believe you are worth it, the world will send more goodwill;
This is not motivational language, but ‘selective perception’. Reading a book, learning a new skill, reflecting once, becoming aware once, every new action is a change, every new attempt is an accumulation, the more output, the more upload, and the original will be automatically overwritten.
Destroy an inherent cognition, and your world will become broader.