Feeling pain after a breakup indicates that one has invested their true feelings in it. So pain is normal, not painful, but abnormal.
After a relationship ends, it takes some time to calm down. Allowing oneself to have a period of sadness and mourning is in line with the psychological characteristics of the human grief process and is also in line with human nature.
The more allowed one is, the easier it is for emotions to pass; The more suppressed and denied, the easier it is for emotions to persist or even strengthen. When pure sadness turns into mourning, it means accepting the reality that the relationship between two people has ended, and this event is about to come to an end.
It is possible to analyze and summarize the development process of the relationship between two people after the emotional waves gradually calm down and rationality slowly recovers. This kind of sorting will deepen our understanding of ourselves and improve our wisdom in judging and choosing in interpersonal relationships. Among them, further clarifying and adjusting one’s mate selection criteria, especially identifying the exclusion items in the criteria that are rejected by one vote, and summarizing the identification methods, will be of great benefit.
This process is a rational thinking process that can only be done after the emotional stage has ended.
Many times, self analysis can be painful, but it is a necessary path towards maturity. If one hastily starts another relationship to “heal” the sadness of heartbreak, it is likely to form a vicious cycle of compulsive repetition, which is not beneficial to both oneself and others, and is also an irresponsible behavior.
Some people may experience prolonged sadness after a breakup, which may have triggered deep memories and triggered certain emotions in their early growth experiences. This requires the assistance of professionals to handle through personal growth counseling.
Heartbreak is a negative event, but when handled properly, it can lead to growth and maturity, turning bad things into good things. The outcome depends on the efforts made during the process, and more importantly, the choices made at the beginning.